I think my dad is playing favorites between me and my older sister, and I'm the favorite. Whenever my dad and I fight he days sorry at the he end and makes it up to me, but he hold a grudge against my sister. I think it's because I've never really had any friends and was teased a lot when I was younger, and my sister has always been ms. popular. He says that she acts just like his older sister (who lied a lot and was mean to him, which is like my sister). And know my sister doesn't like him either. I don't think he knows he's doing it, though. I feel bad, even though I don't like my sister either because she's always so mean. Should I feel bad?
-Ann
I know parents say they don’t have favorites, but I think that they have a special bond with each of their kids. I am most definitely my dad’s favorite kid. He and I have a lot in common and are just kindred spirits. Even though I know I am my dad’s favorite, he always gives preferential treatment to my sister because she has low self esteem and has a hard time making friends. No parent wants to see their children upset and they will do anything in their power to make things better. Usually the older siblings understand this and are capable of dealing with it because they are natural leaders.
Maybe your sister hasn’t reached the maturity level where she understands that because she is older, it’s expected that she can stand on her own and by more independent. That isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t take it upon yourself or feel guilty. Whatever issues she has with your father, SHE needs to work them out with him. As a younger sibling you might feel like you need to be a peace maker, but don’t worry about it. Your father love your sister and your sister loves your father, they just haven’t reached the point in their lives where they can see each other as adults and appreciate each other as companions.
XO,
JANA
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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/27/2008 8:32:00 AM 78 COMMENTS