My two best girl friends always call me weird. I know they don't mean it, but it still bugs me, because people who aren't my friends always call me weird and nerdy and stuff at school because my IQ is 142. (NOT TRYING TO BRAG!!!) I just hate the word weird. Who gets to define normal and weird anyway?
-Libby
You’re absolutely right! Exactly who gets to decide what is “normal” and what is “weird”? No one, that’s who! So you’re a little bit different, that doesn’t make you weird—it makes you unique.
In middle school I was teased relentlessly for being smart. I was the “teacher’s pet,” a “smartie pants,” “nerd”…you name it, my classmates and so-called friends called me it! And I’m not going to lie—it’s not the best feeling in the world. But try to understand what I had to learn the hard way. You should never, ever let anyone make you feel bad about the way you are.
Definitely try talking to your friends about how their teasing makes you feel. You could say, “Hey, I know you probably don’t mean anything by it, but it really hurts my feelings when you guys call me weird. I just think it’s really offensive and rude.” This gives them an opportunity to understand where they’re coming from and a chance to try and change their ways.
Remember, no one can change overnight, so try to be patient with your friends. But if they continue to be rude, it may be time to rethink your friendship. More than likely, they probably don’t even realize they’re hurting your feelings. You’re a smart girl and that’s great! You don’t have to apologize to anyone for your brainpower. Embrace that wonderful noggin of yours and be proud of who you are! Besides, there’s a little bit of “weird” in all of us…and that’s a good thing!
Lots of love,
L’Oreal
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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/17/2008 1:14:00 PM 98 COMMENTS