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How to get out of a relationship funk


 
My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year. We are freshmen in high school. When we first started dating we had so much fun together. Now, we only go out like once every three months. I miss hanging out with him. How can I get him to want to plan more dates with me? Also, I need some new conversation tips!
 
Your relationship sounds like it’s going through a dull patch. No worries, it’s totes fixable! First, put effort into hanging out with your BF more. Relationships don’t look after themselves. They need to be maintained. If he’s iffy on fancy-shmancy dinner, ask him to come over to work on homework together after school or suggest a cute and low-budget date idea. (Psst! We've got tons here.) Okay, we know you would rather have him be the one to initiate plans, but, hey, relationships are all about compromises. This is way better than not hanging at all, right?
 
Another crucial tip is for you to really listen to what your guy is talking about. Not just smiling and nodding when he talks to you – give him feedback, too. So, he says he needs to get his mom a present for Mother’s Day but doesn’t know what to get her? Help him out by figuring out what would be the perfect gift for her. Ask him questions about him because, let’s face it, everyone loves talking about themselves!
 
Your BF will love if you compliment him. Ya gotta do this the right way though. Telling him “you’re awesome!” sounds nice, but it’s so generic that it can sound insincere. Rather, compliment him on something specific and really mean it. Saying something like, “You stayed so chill and relaxed when that guy was being rude to you. That was so cool!” will really stick. Try it!
 
As far as new convo tips go, ask him about school, his fam, his friends, his fave shows and just about everything in between. More importantly, try listening to him more than talking about yourself. Don’t over think anything though. Stay relaxed and your relationship should be way back on track. Good luck, girl!
 
 

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MODMOD MOD! Me and my boyfriend have the same problem, we have been going out for a year and at first we would see each other all the time and he would text me like everyday. Now, he can NEVER hang out with me, he claims it's because he has baseball practice but he only has it for 2 hours a day. He doesn't even make an effort to text me any more, what should I do?!




Hey girl,

Talk to him about how you're feeling - that you wish you could spend more time together and talk more often, that you miss when you both used to feel really excited about seeing each other. He's your BF after all, so you should tell him when something is bothering you! If things don't seem to change or he doesn't seem to care about your feelings, it might be smart to take time apart. It's ok if he's actually busy - because we all get busy sometimes! But if he's not willing to make SOME time for you to show that the relationship is important to him (and really, how hard is it to text or call for a few minutes each day?), it's probably smart to be single and focus on making yourself happy - without stressing yourself out about him if he isn't willing to do the same for you <3
Lauren C.

by lys96 on 4/15/2012 11:55:59 AM

 
 



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My best friend and I are both going through tough patches in life. She deals with it by acting overly happy, and I deal with it by thinking about it quietly. Lately though, she just ignores me and latches onto other girls. but then she'll call to tell me how much her day sucked. I'm so confused...she tells me im the only one who understands her, but I'll be honest in saying that the only reason I'm not completely happy is because she brings me down a little bit, i feel ditched, and like I cant be myself around her anymore. The thing is, it's only been going on for a couple of weeks, and anytime i try to talk to her she apologizes profusely, but nothing changes...she really is my best friend, but I dont know if this is just a phase, or if shes really sick of me. How do I deal?




Hey girl,

It's probably just a phase brought on by how upset/overwhelmed she feels. She might not know how to act around you either since you both deal with the situation so differently, so she's trying to be a little distant to give you space. She might also be trying to spice things up with new friends so she feels better about herself/can put the past behind her. Try being more active in your friendship and asking her to hang out, to enjoy some fun and happy times of your own. Convos with her don't always have to be about complaining/negative stuff, so try to show her your friendship can be happy and uplifting too - that might help her realize she can come to you for BOTH happy and sad things, not just the negative stuff <3
Lauren C.

by summergirl21 on 4/15/2012 11:46:37 AM

 
 

Good advice!

by future_artist on 4/15/2012 11:33:16 AM

 
 



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hey ok my boyfriend texted me yesterday, randomly after not texting me and asked "Can we just be friends?"
wow. i wasn't expecting it. i asked why, and he said that we should just see other people.
i think that was a bunch of crap...there's probably a real reason why he did it...anyway i have wasted 6 months on this jerk and now i just feel kinda lost. he was my first real boyfriend so this is my first real heartbreak. i'm just so confused how he could love me one day and then just stop.




Hey girl,

I've been there! I think lots of us have. The truth is, he probably didn't go from loving you one day to stopping the next. He's probably been feeling out of sorts for a while, or thinking about it for a while, but most boys hate conflict - and they hate making girls sad by breaking up with them. So they stay quiet about it, become distant for a while, let it all grow bigger and bigger inside their own heads... and by then, the girl usually gets frustrated enough that SHE does the dirty work and breaks up for him. Who knows what happened that made him finally speak up, but don't dwell on it. Take a deep breath and accept it - then work on making yourself happy by surrounding yourself with friends and loved ones, joining a new club or picking up a new hobby, etc. Also, he did this through a TEXT message after you have been dating for 6 months. Talk about disrespect! You're sooo much better than this, babe. Breakups are hard so it's ok to feel upset for a while, but know that you deserve so much more <3 And you'll find it when you're ready! 
Lauren C.

by Alykat18 on 4/15/2012 11:17:51 AM

 
 



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I need some advice on how to tell my bf that I just wanna be friends... There's a catch, though. Whether or not things are awkward, we are still going to see eachother on at least a weekly basis because our moms and brothers are best friends! He asked me out about 2 weeks ago, but I just don't feel anything different than I used to, which isn't much.... HELP PLZZZZZ!!!!!!!!




Hey girl,

Dating is all about seeing if you two would work out or not. Sometimes it doesn't jive, and that's ok! You have to do this in person, so grab him after school or meet up somewhere neutral, like a diner or cafe. Tell him you think he's an awesome guy and the past 2 weeks have been fun, but you have to be honest and tell him you think you're better as friends. Apologize and make sure he knows how much you want to stay friends because you think he's a great guy. All breakups are hard so he might be a little upset, but be understanding and nice about it - and things will get back to normal soon <3 
Lauren C.

by the.musician.98 on 4/15/2012 11:12:16 AM

 
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