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GIRL TALK: Getting Over It

I have this problem where I just feel so alone and empty all the time. My BFF and I used to be super close, but now we don't really do anything together. She's been hanging out with another girl, and so I kind of feel "replaced." And the rest of my friends and I aren't really that tight. I have a lot of self-image issues, such as I never think I'm pretty or just that I'm fat, and why would anybody want to be my friend. And I also think that I have no talents because I know a bunch of people who can do that stuff better than me. I'm always venting into a journal and drawing, but it doesn't help at all, sometimes it just makes me feel worse. And when I tell my parents (I have MAJOR trust issues so I don't really tell them anything) they'll just say something along the lines of "Oh, get over it" or "stop being a baby". Sometimes I think that it's because I might have Social Anxiety Disorder because I can't go three minutes without worrying about what others might think of me. How do I tell somebody, and what do I tell them?

--Anonymous

Girl, I know exactly where you're coming from. I'm not just saying this to make you feel better, but at one point in my life, I really felt low about myself and thought I was no good compared to everyone else. Let me tell you that you are DEF not alone in this. But guess what? I promise you, that you will soon realize that you are PERFECT and that you don't need one friend to fulfill you. Got it?

So you said that your BFF has been hanging out with another girl more than she has been with you. You feel "replaced?" Please don't! I don't think she realizes what she is missing out on by not spending more time with YOU! But, I really think that you should find a group of friends and not depend on one. You will learn so much about yourself and friendships by interacting with more than one close friend. Get involved with a club at school or a sports team in the community, where you will be forced to make social ties!

You will only realize how awesome you are and your talents once you push yourself just a little. Don't ever, EVER compare yourself and your talents with other people around you...because you should be living life FOR YOU (and the ones that you love). What's life, if you're going to be worried all the time about what people think? Think how YOU want to see YOURSELF! (:

I think it's so cool that you draw and write in your journal about what goes on and how you feel. But at the same time, remember that you have people who care about you and want to know what's up! Take advantage of this and although you said you have trust issues, break that bondage. Take a risk and tell somebody something, anything!

I know I don't know you personally, but I truly believe that you are a beautiful individual and I cannot wait until you realize it. Push yourself to step out of your comfort zone and really live your life to the fullest! I KNOW you can do it!

<3, Sharon

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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/30/2008 3:28:00 PM 75 COMMENTS

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***MOD**MOD*** My friend who I have known since fourth grade is really mean to me. It never really started, it as kind of been like that our whole friendship. My other friends in my group realize it too. But now that we are in middle school and my group split up- I am stuck with her and have no one there suffering with me. I want to break away, but there is no other friends to go to anymore. What should I do?

Hey girl, why cant you break away, go to your other friends or use this opportunity to meet new people, nobody ever said that you have to stay friends with the same peopel your whole life. xo JANA

indigo on 9/30/2008 4:36:37 PM

Oh my gosh, hun, I know what you feel. Like Sharon, I'm not saying this just to say it, because I know what it feels like. When I feel this way, I listen to music, because it cheers me up. And definatley get involved with a sports team or an after school club. It definatley helps when you want to make new friends and do something that you love. Good luck!!

xox

hello x beautiful 94 on 9/30/2008 4:40:36 PM

uggghh my mom thinks that wool coats arent warm and she wont let me get 1 she wants me to get a stupid north face there so ulgy i want the ones that you see in dilias catologs!!!!!!!!!!!! ahhhh

rokette77 on 9/30/2008 4:46:03 PM

When I was 11 or so, I felt the same way. It's like you have no one you can talk to. I don't like to tell stuff to my parents either because they do the same thing, and the same thing happened to me where my BFF became friends with the new girl.

My life is a lot better now because I've found my cousin, who lives in another part of the country, and we can really tell each other everything and just vent out to each other. It's nice to know someone is listening and it's also good to hear she has some of the same problems and I'm not alone out there. Try reaching out to any cousins you might have. It's nice to be able to talk to someone in the same family about some of these things.

For your friend "leaving" your for the other girl... well, I had a problem with my old BFF getting a new BFF, and I didn't like her either.
But in the past 6 months I've became really good friends with the new girl! I don't know if either one of them are really my BFF's but they are still really good friends of mine.

As for the not being pretty enough thing, there's tons you can do about that! First off, if you think you're overweight then start riding your bike more or jogging around! It could even be just talking to your mom about putting on make-up. I don't think anyone I know is really "ugly", but they just have different parts of them that are nicer than the others. Like I would kill for my friends body, but my other friend has perfectly clear skin. Everyone is insecure about something, but focus on the GOOD parts about you and not so much of the bad parts!

Just remember that you'll eventually get out of that rut in your life and move on with things! Also, (ANOTHER TIP), is just get involed in some activities! If you're bored out of your mind all the time of course you're going to think about those things, but if you have something better to do then your mind won't wander so much!

Hope I at least helped a little!

Lexy5 on 9/30/2008 5:09:28 PM

I know EXACTLY how you feel. my goodness..just keep reminding yourself there's a girl out there looking for a friend just like you. And sometimes it's better to be alone, to be your own BFF for awhile. This is just another storm that you know isn't going to last forever.
♥FOB67

falloutboy67 on 9/30/2008 5:12:14 PM

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Thanks ;) But I dont have any other friends because my group got split up and 2 went to one school and me and my mean friend are in another school. Any tips on making new friends?

indigo on 9/30/2008 5:20:09 PM

north face isn't ugly.

*Wink*Wink* on 9/30/2008 5:21:56 PM

invite your bff over! get back with her and you'll feel so much better. evreyone has bad times and you'll get through it! on the other side of pain is pleasure, trust me.

love wanted on 9/30/2008 5:26:01 PM

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ok there is this boy matt and i think he likes me and i like him but to make sure i want your opianon ok first he came up to me and tickals me and in class the other day he made a joke about the teacher no one really heard besides me and my frind i giggled i geuss he heard and he looked at me and smiled and some parts of the day out of the bule we would stare into each others eyes <3

2glitter12 on 9/30/2008 5:33:17 PM

I HAVE THE EXACT SAME PROBLEM!! its like ur me!

shopper_babe on 9/30/2008 5:34:55 PM

it's ok! i feel ike that sometimes, just all alone. usually its when something major is going on [like when i decided i couldn't be friends with this one girl anymore]. know that venting into a journal does help, even if it seems like it doesn't. try talking to a guidence counselor at your school, that's what they're there for, you know? and don't worry, everything you tell them is confidential. i wold talk to my mom about my probs, and that felt better than writing it down. cuz when i write things down, it just feels like no one can hear me, right?

Sharon's advice is great, so try to do what she is recommending! we're here for you!

`savvy

_savvygirl_15 on 9/30/2008 5:40:42 PM

OK i know exactly where your at, i'm just getting out of that problem, I have social Anxieity Disorder, and it stinks. My bff just did that to me, and i got over it but it did take a long time, just tough it out, ull make it

littlemzgigglz11 on 9/30/2008 6:24:08 PM

Gosh... I can't believe what I'm reading. I see sooo many advice columns that are exactly what I'm dealing with. It's nice to know that I'm not the only one who is totally in this sitch right now. My ex-BFF "replaced" me, I have self-image issues, and I totally feel a bit out of place and all. I hope that we both can be more positive in the near future.

bobydia on 9/30/2008 6:27:47 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!! oh my GOD im flipping out cuz last year my best guy friend(bgf) would like always talk to me every chance he got. He even asked me to ask this girl out for him..... but I think I loved him enough to do that for him OH and did I mention that I’ve liked him since fourth grade!!!! he knew back in fourth grade and I think he liked me back at least everybody said he did. Now we r in 7 and ever since the beginning of this year he quit talking to me and now he came and sat by me and my friend (lets call her CHY) when her boyfriend(lets call him SHAWN) came and sat by us he even took my plate and dumped it for me ……….OMG and Chy just met Dustin(my bgf) this year and she said she could tell he liked me I was like wat evs he turned me down at the end of last year im like he would’ve said yes and would’ve kept talking to me…and my other best friend (lets call her Kelsey) said that he liked me too I was like wat ever tell him to tell me to my face and he never did blah blah he is starting to get sweeter but he can also be a jerk should I tell him I still like him or what???

babygirl1121 on 9/30/2008 6:28:22 PM

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K, so a boy (lets call him tyler) asked me out. I dont know him enough to even consider liking him!! My friend, "heather", is friends with tyler, and she got all mad at me because I wouldnt go out with him, claiming im "ruining everything" and that im "so mean" for turning him down. She's gotten over it, but now another boy is rumored to want to ask me out as well. This boy, "Bill", is very nice and is on my vollyball team, but again, im not sure if i like him. I just recently got over a bad relationship, and am not looking for anything else. How do I say "no" to these boys, without comin off as the most superficial jerk, to my friend, and anyone else who happens to ask me about it? Please help!! Im all depressed and moody lately, and I think it's cuz everybody hates me for not liking these guys!!

xXStarbucksGirlXx on 9/30/2008 6:39:03 PM

OMJ! i have THE exact same prob!!!!!!!!!! all y friends ditched me.. and like i have a HUGE crush on this one guy who is SUPER SUPER SUPER SUPER SUPER SUPERS SUPER SUPER SUPER hot.. and he is one of the few who actually talks to me nicely... and if i talk to him everyone nos i like him.. and thats not good around here..

and people make fun of me cuz im getting my braces so late compared to everyone else.. and it sucks.. im getting mine on monday and everyone else is getting theirs off... and yea.. so lol.. i totally know where your coming from

iheartnickjonasgirl on 9/30/2008 6:43:02 PM

OMG! Your situation is in a way very similiar to mine last year! I was a junior in high school last year. My parents got a divorce, my grandparents were falling apart, mentally and physically (they both had some type of surgery), my brothers were wilder than ever, and because I had almost no friends in all my classes, I was so depressed to the point I would cry every night and coming to school looking like a slob. However, over the summer, I decided that it's very stupid for me to be depressed because after all, no matter how depressed I am, my parents will never care for me. My grandparents had always been the ones there for me, and I decided to stand up for them, to help them finish the chores around the house while they are recovering from their surgeries. I was the one taking care of my brothers. In the end, my brothers and I even grew closer. In school, I started to talk more to other people and I find life to be not so bad. Although I still hate my family situation (now my mom's boyfriend even moved in & I do not like him), I am determined to stand up for the ones I love, and most of all, for my own future! I know it's very hard, especially at first, but be courageous, encourage yourself, take comfort in the smallest thing. Did I mention volunteering helps? When other people are appreciating you, you feel more valued!

anonymous_7982 on 9/30/2008 6:46:39 PM

yeah, i'm starting to feel a bit replaced by one of my best friends,
but she isn't just ditching me,
she is ditching alot of us.
but she is still really cool and usually finds time to hang out with us.
and i think everybody has self-image issues sometimes.
even i do sometimes!
but you just gotta look past it.

AmandaPanda013 on 9/30/2008 6:48:23 PM

I'm sorry girl! Sometimes I can be like that too. I always worry that all of my friends secretly don't like me and only put up with me so that they can gossip about me later. I know that probably isn't the case, but still. Sometimes I feel ugly or like I'll never get a boyfriend, but here are some things that make me feel better:
Listen to music. Write in my diary, talk to my sister or mom, think about all of the good things about myself (like, I may want my friend's hair, but I have clear skin and I like that). i know that life is tough sometimes, but you will get through this! I'm rooting for you!

ShopperSoccerGurl on 9/30/2008 7:02:23 PM

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i started my period like more than a year ago, but i still cant ask my parent to buy me stuff, especially my dad. i asked my mom once, but it was so hard! i have no idea why either.
im also scared that im gonna get my next one on monday, which is the day i get my braces. i have to drive like 2 hours then i have to get the braces, and then were going shopping and i dont know if ill be able to handel cramps AND my mouth being so sore AND having to walk around for so long. i am supposed to get my period soon, like today or tomorrow but if i get it later then i will definitally have it for my braces.. what should i do? for both?

iheartnickjonasgirl on 9/30/2008 7:07:28 PM

Omg! I have the exact problem. My best friend does that to me too, and I feel the exact same way.But when she gets into a fight with one of her friends, THEN she says that she misses me and all that stuff. It reallys annoys me when she does that, and I feel like a back- up friend.

When I find new friends, I find out that they are my best friend's enemies! Plus, she starts blaming me about spreading rumors even though I didn't. My mom thinks she's a bad influence for me, but how could I give up my best friend since, like, forever?!? If your reading this, PLEASE help me. XP

FrenchSorbet on 9/30/2008 7:15:35 PM

MOD My family; mainly my mom, grandma, and sister seem to only care about my grades. Once I was visiting my grandma and all she talked about was I have to do well in school for 30 minutes straight. And when I have bad days or personal issues my mom just talks about grades and university. It's like they don't care about anything else. Also my sister is like a second mom it's so annoying! Help... Thanks <3

MunkQoo on 9/30/2008 7:17:52 PM

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So, I started high school this year, and my friends from grade school and I have sort of drifted apart. Now, I don't really talk to anyone between classes, or even during class for that matter. It just feels like everyone already has their friends and won't want another one... like me! I'm very shy and I just wish that I could carry on a conversation with one of the girls from school, or talk with them about something than the classes we have. Do you have any suggestions for starting a conversation while walking in the hallway, or by our lockers? If you answer, this will be such a big help to me! Thanks so much in advance!

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uhll on 9/30/2008 7:37:05 PM

I think we ALL kind of hate at least one thing about ourselves...I definetly do! sometimes i think I'm just a worthless piece of crap, as harsh as that sounds...but then somehow (usually by writing in my journal or listening to music) I realzie that thats not the case at all/

frankensteingirl on 9/30/2008 7:44:13 PM

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ok so I got in 1 of the town plays I auditioned for ( its my first year in that drama club so im HAPPY) and I am supposed to be playing a character named "Flirt" but I know diddly sqwat about flirty HELP ME!

stargazer46 on 9/30/2008 7:56:27 PM

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I am growing away from my friend. She hasn't changed but i think i have. I just don't find what she thinks is funny well funny. I could tell that today i kinda wasn't really talking to her much cause i just felt bored talking to her. What should i do? Last year she was my bff and this is i don't really like her and sometimes find her annoying. I am so confused please help.

Inky on 9/30/2008 8:03:06 PM

my friend has the same prob with her bff (my other friend)

hillary24368343 on 9/30/2008 8:09:37 PM

wow im so releaved that someone else feels the way i do. thank you sharon and anonymous. i think i have social anxiety disorder too. my brother told this guy i liked that i like hannah montana and the jonas brothers and i don't they are gay, he was laghing at me and he was cute too, i still feel like killing my brother. but i feel better about myself now, im very self concious about myself. canada rocks! (:

berlingirl259 on 9/30/2008 8:27:46 PM

i think something like that happens to me too. its not that we arent friends, we just aren't as good. However, there are 10 girls in our grade so its harder. ideas?

starhusky on 9/30/2008 8:29:37 PM

hey, has anyone out there use retin a? (presciption acne medication)
i started a month ago and its not really working for me, did it work for you? and if it did, how long did it take for you to start seeing visible results? and if it didnt, was there anything that helped your skin? ive tried everything. thanks in advance!

love wanted on 9/30/2008 8:32:31 PM

Inky-
aww, that happened to me and my friend. sometimes you just have to let go, it sounds like you two a re growing apart. and that's ok. dont talk to her as much as you do normally and try not to hang around her much.
it's possible shes just going through an awkward patch, or you are, and you are just having a rough spot in your friendship. if you feel comfortable, tell her you think you've changed and you don't feel the same way about the things you used to. and everyone grows up. sometime. good luck!

love wanted on 9/30/2008 8:35:28 PM

I understand how you feel, it seems like all my good friends are barely my friends Nemore, i dont understand everything u go through, but my grandpa died, and i suffer from anxiety and depression, so i feel empty a lot, so far the only thing that helped was God but IDK if that offends u, bcause idk ur religion. But talking helps some too! just know, when the time is right, this weight will be lifted from your shoulders! When i try telling people my problems they say o i understand, but they rilly dont! It feels like no one will ever understand, and I know how that feels, but place your trust in GOD!!!!

pixelatedheart on 9/30/2008 8:41:49 PM

love wanted-
i use retin-a, but not for acne. i use it for keratosis pilaris, which is a condition when a protien called keratin builds up in your pores, resulting in zit-like bumps. it took about 3 weeks for me to notice a difference with my kp. hope that helps!!

xeoa on 9/30/2008 9:14:19 PM

anyone got any questions for the Date Ball?????

coca08 on 9/30/2008 10:55:38 PM

OMG, i feel the same way.

~Pussycat in Paris~ on 9/30/2008 10:59:27 PM

i feel the same way sometimes like no one is listening and everyone is going thier own way...

AbercrombieQueenArtist on 10/1/2008 8:34:08 AM

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ok.... so mi friend (letz call her sally) totally broke a promise 2 me! she always says she'll hang out w/ me, but then always hangs out w/ da mean popular group! and she is turnin into 1 of them! cuz i like this guy named cody...sally is friend's with cody's friend.. she told cody's friend that i like him.. and cody's friend told cody that sum1 likes him! cody rides da same bus as sally so asked her, "if i guess who likes me, will u tell me if i m right?" sally said yes, and he guesses me!!! and no he knos, and sally said, "i made a promise 2 him, so i gotta keep it... so i told him it wuz u who liked him." i tried 2 act like it didnt matter, but i m boiling inside! i mean she kept her promise 2 a guy, but broke the promise she origionally made 2 me!! AHH!! u just gotta help!!! PLZ?!?!?!

Hey girl,

You need to let your friend know that what she did was wrong. Tell her that you don't like how she has changed her ways now that she's hanging out with the other kids, and that if she is going to break your promises that you see no need to tell her anything. Don't be aggressive, but make sure that she understands you.

GL girl

elmo123abc on 10/1/2008 9:44:18 AM

MOD MOD MOD! OR ANY OTHA PEEPS!

how do u get those pics on ur comments?

elmo123abc on 10/1/2008 9:45:02 AM

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How do u ask a guy to slow dance?? how do u tell a guy that u dont want 2 dance with him without hurting his feelings???
PLZ HELP
thanks a ton!!

Girl,

Just focus on the music, go up to him and make a comment about the song. Once you've gotten his attention ask him if he'd like to dance. As for the other guy, just tell him that you're sorry but you've decided to sit that song out. If he keeps coming back you may be forced to tell him that you're just not interested.

Chardae B.

someswimmer on 10/1/2008 12:29:45 PM

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i hav a BIG problem. ok so my mom wasnt feeling well for a couple weeks n went to the doc. the doc. is dumb n wouldnt let her get a catscan. so then she went back a week after the doc told her that and she heard the news that she wouldve died if she had waited anther hour. so now shes in the hospital with a pendicitus (idk how to spell it, its with ur appendix) and they cant take it out b.c if they do she'll die. anyways. last saturday i called my bff crying b.c im soo scared that i'll lose my mom wen were super close. well my bff was like 'ur moms fine bye' then hung up!! my bffl whose supposed to b there! then my other friends helped me. so n monday i was ignoring her n then she tried to say that i hav no rite to b mad at her n then was like i really couldnt talk then said that she was at home watching a movie with her sis. then she said she was in the car after shopping n had to bring in groceries, now she is saying that she was at the hair salon wit he sis! im so mad at her!! then 2 days ago i was at the hospital visiting my mom n she called me like 8 times n i answered the phone n was like 'stop calling im with my mom!' but she kept calling so i sent her like 5 texts asking her to stop! then she sent me a text saying 'ur moms fine n she cant die from her appendix n u n me need to talk this out u can see ur mom l8r' so i replied 'guess what my mom can die b.c her appendix is so bad that its totally infected n they cant even do the surgery b.c if they do she will die! n her organs r in major danger b.c if the meds dont help she will die! so leave me along b.c u obviously dont no whats going on with me or my family n im not gonna waste the precious time wit my mom on some lil inconsiderate friend' so she sent me bak like 5 texts yelling at me n stuff! should i hav said what i did n that text? then last nite she kept calling me house n my little bro answered the phone n was like 'shes sick stop calling' n im at home sick rite now b.c im so stressed out with everything! n she still doesnt get hte fact that im hurting rite now! n that im hurting so much that im actually sick! what do i do??? she usually is the best bff eva! n she has neva acted liek this b4 so idk wut to do! n im super scared for my mom i hav gone to bed every nite crying, n i hav broken down crying at school twice, n las thursday at cheer i broke down crying, luckily it was one of my older bro's who was helping me b/c my coach thinks im to good to work with the class (i do cheer at my gym, 3 of my bros r gymnasts n i used to b) so wut do i do to cheer myself up? b.c tom. im going to school, plus i hav cheerleading. i really need help!

Girl,

It's clear that your bff doesn't know how to handle high pressure situations like this. So, If you bff is having trouble understanding you, the best thing for you to do right now is to not fight with her. Tell her why it is important for her to be there for you, but explain to her that if she can't be there than it's best that you two spend some time apart. You need all of your energy to focus on supporting your mom because she's the one who needs you the most right now. I know it's hard because my dad had cancer when I was eleven-years-old, and in the beginning I fell apart. But my dad asked me to be strong for him and that's exactly what I did. I went to school, spent hours at the hospital helping him most afternoons, and I even helped out at home. When my dad came home he was so proud of me for being supportive while he was away sick. Be strong for you mom. Take care. Chardae B.

tinkgirly on 10/1/2008 2:20:39 PM

elmo123abc -
u hav to upload one to ur profile, then after the mods approve ur profile the pic will show up with ur comments, but u CANT upload pics of urself or any bad pics.

tinkgirly on 10/1/2008 2:21:51 PM

2glitter12 -
ik exactly how u feel! my neighbor n i hav been friends since i was going into 3rd grade n he was going into 5th. well he liked me n i didnt like him, now i like him n idk if he likes me (hes 15 n im 13 but will b 14 on october 20th) anyways we kissed last summer, n now weneva we see eachother we look into eachothers eyes and stuff. i think that the 2 of us mayb in love b.c we both hav been sicne the day we met (literally!) so my advice is that u talk to him more. if hes by his locker go up to him n talk to him or joke around with him (dont do the eye batting thing guys will think u hav somthing in ur eye lol!) just b firty n smile at him, also u may want to make him notice u without him knowing that u want him to be looking (like walk by him with friend n laugh, jut dont b all obnoxious, n if hes on any sports show up to a game or two) also he may b the type of guy who wants to b asked out now hav to ask out the girl so u may want to make the first move (mayb u can say 'hey wana go to the movies on friday, if u want we can just go as friends' then see what he says) any way good luck! ♥

tinkgirly on 10/1/2008 2:28:25 PM

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I have a problem. It's always the same with EVERY guy I like. Here's how it goes:
Day 1: I find a guy who's cute, so I try to start up conversation with him.
Day 2: We talk a lot and he seems interested. I have a great day because of that.
Day 3: I try to start up conversations with him, but he just doesn't seem to respond.
I'm never too clingy or anything! I don't know what the problem is. I really really like this one guy now, and it's been like this a lot. Any tips? Thanks!

Hey girl,

Try to find different topics to discuss, things that are fun and interesting. If he doesn't find interest in the things that you are talking about he will eventually get bored talking to you, even if he enjoyed it in the beginning.

Chardae B.

stagebabe401 on 10/1/2008 3:12:00 PM

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I really like this guy named Henry who I have three classes with. I just met him this year, but we rarely talk. We've only talked once or twice and it was only for like a minute. He's super cute, funny, and really smart. The problem is, we hang out with different friend groups, so I don't even know how to talk to him! I can't just go up a start a convo with him because whenever I even think about it I get nervous. I can talk to other boys, but just not him. Plus, even if I had the guts to talk to him, I wouldn't know when to! We sit on opposite sides of the classroom, I see him only a few times a day, and we have no time AT ALL to talk in between classes. It would be really weird if I just went up and talked to him, because like i said we hang out with diff. people. and i wouldn't know what to say anyways. the only time he's talked to me is when i've just asked a question about the assignment or sumthing related to school outloud and he was the first one to answer. i think about him all the time and i've liked him since the day i met him (which was the beg. of the school year). I don't know much about him, but from what i see in class he's a great guy. also, my close friend seems to like him, but idk if she does. and i'm afraid that he liked her too because he's nice to her and he talks to her more than he talks to me. i really like him and i can't get over him, please help me! I want to get to know him better or at least talk to him, not about school but a friendly convo, but i don't know when or how to! and whenever i see him talking to another girl, i freak out and automatically assume they are bf and gf or something. i don't even know if he's single or not! HELP!!!

Hey girl,

Is your crush good at anything, say sports or a certain subject in school? If so, when you see him with his friends call him over and tell you that you have to ask him something. Then, ask him if he'd be interested in teaching you whatever it is that you come up with. If he says yes, this will be the perfect opportunity for you guys to start hanging out. If he says no, it doesn't matter just say it's cool and that you'll just look for someone else to help you. This way you won't look desperate.

GL girl

Xxmake.me.love.youxX on 10/1/2008 3:26:29 PM

my previous comment didn't show up.

i feel the exact same way. almost all the time. its gotten better in the last like 2 weeks, but i also think i have social anxiety disorder. If last year i hadn't started taking care of my body and buying different clothes, I would be the very least popular girl in school, but instead i'm kinda in the middle, but still i get scared of social situations like if a person sits next to me, i'm afraid that i won't say anything. There's this girl that i'm sorta friends with and i talk to her, but we don't really have huge jokes like the rest of her friends and i always feel so stupid when i talk to her because i don't joke around with her like her better friends do. I'm scared of talking to anybody new.

shopper_babe on 10/1/2008 3:46:28 PM

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HELP! I jyst got an email that said BLACKMAIL. The name that the person who sent the email crwated was "Angi whoohoo" I am almost 100% sure that it is my friend. She is kinda hard to reach. What do I do? What if it isn't her?

Hey girl,

If you're not sure that it's her just don't respond. If you want to reach her the best way is not through an email that says blackmail. Try checking with your girl pals maybe one of them has her contact info.

Chardae

jhluver4ever on 10/1/2008 3:49:05 PM

Time by Hootie and the Blowfish

Time, why you punish me?
Like a wave bashing into the shore
You wash away my dreams

Time, why you walk away?
Like a friend with somewhere to go
You left me crying

Can you teach me about tommorrow
And all the pain and sorrow
Running free?
Cause tomorrow's just another day
And I don't believe in time

Time, I don't understand
Children killing in the street
Dying for the color of red
Time, hey there red and blue
Wash them in the ocean, make them clean,
Maybe their mothers won't cry tonight

Can you teach me about tomorrow
All the pain and sorrow
Running free?
But tomorrow's just another day
And I don't believe in...

Time is wasting
Time is walking
You ain't no friend of mine
I don't know where i'm goin'
I think I'm out of my mind
Thinking about time

And if I die tomorrow, yeah
Just lay me down in sleep

Time, you left me standing there
Like a tree growing all alone
The wind just stripped me bare, stripped me bare
Time, the past has come and gone
The future's far away
Now only lasts for one second, one second
Can you teach me about tomorrow
And all the pain and sorrow
Running free?
'Cause tomorrow's just another day
And I don't believe in time

Time is wasting
Time is walking
You ain't no friend of mine
I don't know where i'm goin'
I think I'm out of my mind
Thinking about time

And if I die tomorrow, yeah
Just lay me down in sleep

Time, why you punish me?

milkshake babe on 10/1/2008 4:33:30 PM

I once felt like that before. If your parents are always saying, "Get over it,", tell them it's serious and not just a tattletale or something. Your parents should always be there for you at all times if something is bothering you. I just think of good things about myself. It kinda helps. I hope you'll feel better.

fun4life97 on 10/1/2008 4:42:54 PM

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