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GIRL TALK: Playing Favorites


 
I think my dad is playing favorites between me and my older sister, and I'm the favorite. Whenever my dad and I fight he days sorry at the he end and makes it up to me, but he hold a grudge against my sister. I think it's because I've never really had any friends and was teased a lot when I was younger, and my sister has always been ms. popular. He says that she acts just like his older sister (who lied a lot and was mean to him, which is like my sister). And know my sister doesn't like him either. I don't think he knows he's doing it, though. I feel bad, even though I don't like my sister either because she's always so mean. Should I feel bad?
 
-Ann


I know parents say they don’t have favorites, but I think that they have a special bond with each of their kids. I am most definitely my dad’s favorite kid.  He and I have a lot in common and are just kindred spirits.  Even though I know I am my dad’s favorite, he always gives preferential treatment to my sister because she has low self esteem and has a hard time making friends.  No parent wants to see their children upset and they will do anything in their power to make things better. Usually the older siblings understand this and are capable of dealing with it because they are natural leaders.

Maybe your sister hasn’t reached the maturity level where she understands that because she is older, it’s expected that she can stand on her own and by more independent. That isn’t your fault and you shouldn’t take it upon yourself or feel guilty. Whatever issues she has with your father, SHE needs to work them out with him. As a younger sibling you might feel like you need to be a peace maker, but don’t worry about it. Your father love your sister and your sister loves your father, they just haven’t reached the point in their lives where they can see each other as adults and appreciate each other as companions.

XO,
JANA


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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/27/2008 8:32:00 AM 78 COMMENTS

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my boyfriend dumped mee!

xoxoheartss on 9/27/2008 8:39:47 AM

Whoa....all i can say is that is one sticky situation. Sometimes my dad kinda treats me like im perfect and my sis is the rebel (which is well kinda true, except im far from perfect and my sis isnt bad(far from it!) she is just real outgoing lol) and i know it can get kinda embarrasing at times! i would just talk to your dad!

bookworm14 on 9/27/2008 11:02:04 AM

first comment?

ksister on 9/27/2008 11:36:02 AM

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i am 13 and i have smaller hands then usual do you have any idea around what my ring size would be?

ksister on 9/27/2008 11:37:25 AM

that so sucks girl.I wish u the best of luck!!!!

gorgeously_green12 on 9/27/2008 12:44:39 PM

i'll alway be daddy's favorite!!! lol

rmizzy123 on 9/27/2008 12:59:47 PM

i feel the exact same way!even though my sister is always mean to me, i kind of feel like my dad favors me over her. what should i do about it?

wisher2435 on 9/27/2008 1:13:26 PM

My mom favours my sister, I don't know about my dad. My mom always tells me to be more like my sister academically, it's annoying.

MunkQoo on 9/27/2008 1:23:30 PM

my mom told me im her favorite but idk. im deff not my dads favorite! well i dont think my dad likes my sister either. idk...

novemberbaby164 on 9/27/2008 1:37:38 PM

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I have a question. Why does my stomach bulge after i eat?

shortiew/style2468 on 9/27/2008 2:24:40 PM

hey, anyone wanna chat?

M... on 9/27/2008 3:02:38 PM

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i think my parents like my older bro more because he always gets straight A's and he never gets in trouble and i get good grades 2, but not as good as him and its really hard 2 live ^ 2 their expectations what do i do?

angelwingz9810 on 9/27/2008 3:09:25 PM

I will chat if anyone is on still.

daisymae on 9/27/2008 3:28:55 PM

It's the other way around for me! I'm the big sister who's miss popular with her friends and has her hobbies and does her own thing. However, my brother who is 1 and 1/2 younger than me get's all of the attention and the speacial treatment. I know for a fact that my dad likes him better, because he's said so... and I'm pretty sure that my mom does too, though she always says we're equal. But I'm not like a rebal or anything. My brother is really shy, doesn't really have any friends, and pretty much has no hobbies other than video games... so why do my parents like him better?

I think the parents favorite child is the one who spends the most time with him. For instance, if you had 2 dogs, and you spend a lot of time with one dog and get attached to it, you'll really love dog and favor him over the other one. Not to say that you don't still love the other dog, because he's still nice and all... it's just that you've spent more time with the other one and are more comforable around it. See? So, the choice is really up to each person. If you want to be closer to your parents then suck up to them and talk to them and get hobbies with them, after a while they'll like both of their kids for different reasons.

Lexy5 on 9/27/2008 3:39:55 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD please answer!!!
So my BFF and I decided to get a group together to go see a movie tonite. we knew not a lot of people wouldnt be able to come, but we figured that at least 2 of the 8 people we called would be able to come. the problem is, everyone either can't come or is not answering their phone!! the only person that said he could come is one of my BGFs. I can tell this guy has a major crush on me, although he hasn't confirmed it. How can i go to the movies with only a guy who has a big crush on me and my BFF? Either way, one person will be left out of the convo. should i just cancel the whole thing? HELP!!




Hey girl!

Do not cancel the whole thing. Just go and have fun. No one will be left out of a convo, just engage both of them into the convo.

<3 Brianna 

xeoa on 9/27/2008 5:40:53 PM

That would suck. Frown

ShopperSoccerGurl on 9/27/2008 6:50:48 PM

that really sucks...but it's true it's up to the sister and dad to figure it out since it's mostly something between them.

frankensteingirl on 9/27/2008 7:03:42 PM

xoxoheartss

im so sorry.i know how you feel when a guy dumps u Frown(so sad).but its best if u forget about him.he's not worth it

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 8:57:46 PM

Anyone wanna talk? Before the blog changed I had 2 really good friends on here but now they arent on =[

brunettee on 9/27/2008 9:00:38 PM

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I've been friends with this girl since the 3rd grade now were in 6th and she just annoys me. it used to not bother me but now everything she does bothers me,the way she randomly dances its embarrassing the way she says hi every 5 minutes and a lot of other stuff. What should I do?




Hey girl!

Maybe you need to separate for a little like get space. And maybe things will get better.

<3 Brianna 

brunettee on 9/27/2008 9:02:32 PM

brunettee

hey im the same here.i have a really good friend here but shes never online.so whats up?

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 9:08:58 PM

im the "favorite" my sis says cause i dont get in trouble. yesterday i got an F and my mom really didnt do anything.

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/27/2008 9:09:48 PM

Hey kimm23
Nothing im bored i had a basketball game today we won in over time. whats up?

brunettee on 9/27/2008 9:18:32 PM

brunettee

thats good Smile i like watching basketball games. uhhh..im bored too.there's nothing to do.i dont know what to do because i like my guy friend and i dont think he knows because i told him that i like this boy named oscar and i just found out that some people are trying to get him and a girl to go out and i think that he likes that girl.and im really sad because that girl is not me Frown

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 9:27:28 PM

Kim23-
have u asked him if he likes her? If your good friends he might tell u. Do u play any sports? sorry i couldnt give u better advice!

brunettee on 9/27/2008 9:37:50 PM

Anyone want to talk

daisymae on 9/27/2008 9:38:13 PM

Hey daisymae!

brunettee on 9/27/2008 9:48:30 PM

girls do me a favor, tell me if my profile's up. idk b/c i clicked on it and it has a photo but nothing was up

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/27/2008 9:49:05 PM

brunettee

no i dont want to because then he's gonna ask me why i asked him.and he's going to think that i like him and what if he doesnt like me back.nope i dont play any sports i dont really like running or exercise.

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 9:51:06 PM

Mod or Girls- My friend has a new boyfriend, he is really nice. She just got out of an almost 10 month relationship, and isn't too sure about her new boyfriend. So, anytime she is with him, she calls me or texts me to call her. I am starting to get really annoyed, because all I can hear is him talking or her telling him to quit doing something. Then, if she is not with him she is talking about him and comparing him to her ex. One time I tried to tell her about something that was important to me and all she did was pause for a second and goes really and then continued to talk about how unsure she is about the guy and all this different stuff involving him and her ex. Then, when I mentioned it again she goes oh I didn't know that. So, how can I deal with my friend? Sorry for how long this is. Thanks for any help!




Hey girl!

Just tell her how you feel. Tell her that you want your friendship to be more than just talking about her and her boyfriend.

<3 Brianna 

kk16 on 9/27/2008 9:52:40 PM

daisymae

hey how r u Smile

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 9:53:26 PM

GIRLS

check out my profile Smile

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 9:56:58 PM

iheartcharlie

nope its not up yet

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 10:02:42 PM

brunettee-
Hi whats up?

Kimm23-
I am good just stressed out about school. How about you?

daisymae on 9/27/2008 10:03:12 PM

Hey Brianna! Thanks for the advice!

kk16 on 9/27/2008 10:05:38 PM

Kim23
Yeah I can see why you wouldnt want to, I wouldnt either. Whos your fave singer?

brunettee on 9/27/2008 10:09:00 PM

Daisymae
Nothing Im just bored. What r u doing?

brunettee on 9/27/2008 10:10:13 PM

daisymae


omg im the same here.stressed about my report card i think i have a C in biology a C in homeroom and a B in geography and the rest are As.and i want straights As because then my mom is going to get mad at me and she might change me to another school !!!Frown and i have a big problem with my ex best friend.i want to be friends with her again.so yeah..
why are u stressed?

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 10:11:51 PM

brunettee

my favorite singer would be umm..this so hard..uhh...well all the singers from my favorite bands

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 10:24:26 PM

Ohh mine are taylor swift and mariah carey and.... a lot of other ppl. I wanted to be friends again with my ex bff and yesturday at recess I actually played with her. Like all my ex bfss are in the so called "cool" group but I dont think anyone is really popular.... im soooo bored

brunettee on 9/27/2008 10:30:09 PM

what grade are u in ? im in 9th grade.omg i hate the whole "popular"thing in school.so stupid and annoying

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 10:38:32 PM

omg i feel kinda like ur sister. my dad totally favors my little brother, because hes younger and a boy.

alxbbygrl94 on 9/27/2008 11:18:30 PM

Thanks Kimm23!!! Ugh why is my picture up then?!

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/27/2008 11:20:32 PM

MOD: Why is my photo up but my profile isn't?
THANK YOU!!!




Hey girl!

I do not know srry. check this out to help you. http://www.girlslife.com/page/PROFILE-FAQ.aspx

<3 Brianna

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/27/2008 11:21:16 PM

MOD: BTW, what is a good cheap phone off of at&t (cell phone). Is the shine good? Or razr? what is good less than 120 or 100

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/27/2008 11:22:42 PM

MOD,
I have to go to this big mass tomorrow for church. There's is foing to be like 2,000 people. It some big celebration. I'm not sure what's its about. We don't go that often, because we always busy. I only have like two outfits for church and I've worn them a bunch of times. What can I wear, that I haven't worn 20 times and it's black?
(I look good in black and white.)

whiteorchidgirl on 9/27/2008 11:26:43 PM

iheartcharlie

your welcome.sooooo how r u?how's school?

Kimm23 on 9/27/2008 11:28:03 PM

6th grade. I know and the people who think there popular are soo mean. especially this one girl everyone used to hate her cause shes so mean but now some people like her and I am not one of them
~brunettee~

brunettee on 9/27/2008 11:30:26 PM

MOD: BTW, what is a good cheap phone off of at&t (cell phone). Is the shine good? Or razr? what is good less than 120$ or 100$




Hey girl!

I do not know, ask your parents.

<3 Brianna 

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/27/2008 11:31:09 PM

MOD
When will my profile be publicly visibly?




Hey girl!


<3 Brianna 

brunettee on 9/27/2008 11:31:49 PM



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