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The Problem is Me!

GIRL TALK: Take The Next Step

Whenever I like a guy, I ALWAYS become really close to them up to the point where I'm positive they like me back. But the problem is, I never get to asking them out. I get scared that they'll say no. So during the loooooong process of me trying to figure out if I should ask him out or not, another girl comes in and the guy I like starts liking that girl. What can I do to fix this???

-Anonymous

Hey, girlie! So you're a little late on grabbin' the boy when ya can, huh? No worries! This can be fixed, chica.

First of all, when you realize that you like a boy, think hard about whether you can see yourself dating him. If you honestly can, then that's when you need to find out if he feels the same way for you. When you know for sure that he is into you just the same, then you'll know it's time to win his heart for sure and ask him out!

You shouldn't feel scared about the guy saying no. You def have to be confident about this! Be prepared for a yes or a no, babe. If he says yes, then awwwwww yeah, girl! But if he says no, then it's totally cool! You should accept that it wasn't meant to be and you can always stay friends.

So next time, make sure your crush knows how you feel and do what ya gotta do before another chick comes and it becomes too late! Good luck, chica!

<3, Sharon

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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/15/2008 11:51:00 AM 76 COMMENTS

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just ask someone out. if you dont you and they like you then you'll feal stuided

izze on 9/15/2008 12:43:05 PM

1st comment!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i <3 Brett!

jonasbrocrazy13 on 9/15/2008 1:03:11 PM

i have the same problem

sammijoe77 on 9/15/2008 2:37:50 PM

i start CCD today with Charlie!!! YAH! !!!!!!!!!

~iheartcharlie~ on 9/15/2008 2:38:56 PM

same wiiith mee!! im always afraid of the possible(most likley) NO! one time i REALLY liked this guy and we were kinda friends and my BFF said do him ' u n karissa r friends rite?' hez like 'rite' then my friend said 'u shud ask her 2 the dance' and hes like 'EWW NO!!!' thats the closest i ever came 2 havin a bf :p ughhhh

vanillabeanxx on 9/15/2008 2:54:07 PM

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Ok, so yesterday I was at my bgf's (AND my best friends ex!) house watching a movie. After, he kissed me! I have no idea what to do, I feel SO guilty! HELP!!!!!

Hey girl,

You know your friends best, so if you feel guilty and like you should tell her, you should. No matter what you do just don't fret over it for too long.

Chardae B.

hnw0113 on 9/15/2008 3:00:49 PM

mod
mi bff bffs just broke up with her bf. they went out for 3 days! mi bff told mi! and i love the guy she broke up with! should i ask him and he's mi age! what should i do?

Hey girl,

You must determine what is most important to you. Your friendship or a relationship with your crush. If it's you're best friend talk to her about it. Tell her that you want to ask him out, but you wanted to see how she feels about it first. The worst thing that can happen is that she won't like the idea.

Chardae B.

maine lover 4 ever on 9/15/2008 3:30:30 PM

thanks Chardae
~Celine!

No prob girl. Go for it.

maine lover 4 ever on 9/15/2008 3:39:17 PM

i have the EXACT prob...but how do u know if hes in2 u??

luv2shop112 on 9/15/2008 3:58:38 PM

hey girlie you just need to calm down and ask him out and if he says no then just think hes not the one for you be strong and ask him out or you could have a friend ask him out for you. you can do it!!!

cheerqueen96 on 9/15/2008 4:23:35 PM

MOD!!

I need to stop getting attracted to guys out-of-the-blue! Every month something happens and I start to really like someone. How do I stop?

nicole32 on 9/15/2008 4:28:07 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
Dear MOD,
thanks for reading this!
anyway, i really want to have more guy friends, but i don't know how to start being friends w/ them b/c im really shy. what do i do???
thanks♥

Even though you're shy, you can still make some guy friends! Are any of your gal pals friends with guys? Start hanging out with her and them...or ask her to introduce you. If not, try to start casual conversations with guys in your classes and at lunch. Don't think of them as any different from your girlfriends. If anything, they will be easier to talk to, better listeners, and less dramatic!

PEACE OUT!

Cassie

emily96 on 9/15/2008 5:04:43 PM

whats CCD? i need some help here plz ppl

sweetgirl18 on 9/15/2008 5:16:54 PM

omg! that kinda sounds like me! well not really. i will get really close with a guy but he wont ask me out so i wont know if i should ask him out or not so either i will ask him out (it seams like 99% of the time its a no) or i wont ask him out and he will end up with another girl. but u can never tell if u should ask out a guy or not cuz at my school half of the guys hate when girls ask them out and half of them dont care. i dont get any of it!

novemberbaby164 on 9/15/2008 5:26:13 PM

HEy mod... i really like this guy and were really good friends. And i had given him my phone number a while ago before i liked him. Now he said he might know where it is but he hasn't called. I only see him once a week and i can't see him until next thursday. I didn't give it to him last week because we didn't have paper and our parents were dragging us out the door. Do you think he will call? or should i ask his brother who i don't really know to give him my phone number (friends idea) or should i ask my brother to tell him to call me because my brother goes to his school? Or do you have anyother ideas? Please Help! he is all i can think about its driving me crazy!

How long ago did you give him your number? Give the kid some time...Guys are slow with stuff like that! If it's been a few months, I would just wait until you see him again and casually ask if he still has your number. If he says yes, tell him to use it ;). If he says no, give it to him again.

PEACE OUT!

Cassie

pirates13 on 9/15/2008 5:31:35 PM

thanks cassie p!
♥

emily96 on 9/15/2008 5:46:49 PM

MOD please help
i really like this guy and when im around him i get all show offy and flirty and have really bad blonde moments and so know i keep getting called dumb blonde and the thing is thats soo not me at all im really smart but when im around him i can't help my actions and i think he might like me at times but also i think he thinks im kinda annoying! HELP!!!

It can be hard to keep your cool around a guy you really like. We all have those foolish moments, but it probably seems like a way bigger deal to you than it does to him. I wouldn't worry too much about it. When he's around, try to act just as if you would with your best friends and really be yourself. If you want to show that you're not dumb, bring up an intelligent subject such as something interesting you heard on the news or something cool you learned in History class earlier.

PEACE OUT!

Cassie

annaclare on 9/15/2008 5:51:35 PM

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ok so i really like this guy, but he is a year older than me. he is sooooo cute and really nice and funny. but we don't have any classes together and he doesn't even know my name!!!! i m waaaaaaay to chicken to talk to him, so i try to smile at him in the halls, but he won't even look at me!! i mean i am sure that if we got to know each other he would start liking me but i don't know how to talk to him. the only class we have together is chorus, but he is always with his friends. any suggestions??
~*harry-potter-girl-27~*

What is he into? A certain sports team or television show? Try to find out and then next time you are near him mention something about it. Hearing you talk about one of his favorites will spark his attention and he should turn to talk to you!

PEACE OUT!

Cassie

harry_potter_girl_27 on 9/15/2008 6:19:36 PM

HELLO PPL

crazy_MoNKey on 9/15/2008 6:45:04 PM

~MOD MOD MOD~ So i'm not happy at the school im at right now. i go to a k-12 school that i've been at since pre-kindergarten. i think the reason i'm unhappy is that im sick of everyone there. i think i might want to change schools for next year, but i have some concerns. 1) i would miss my friends! they are all i have right now... 2) the public school in my district is pretty scary (people get stabbed at the football games!) and 3) i have no experience at being the new kid. sorry its so long. i just need to vent. do you have any advice?

why don't you like your school if you like your friends. If you have a good set of friends at your school, you should probably re-consider leaving them. But if you do decide to change schools, making new friends isn't hard. Laura

xeoa on 9/15/2008 7:12:31 PM

****MOD**** i have lots of girl friends, but not many guys. I have like, 3. and i wouldn't rly consider one of them a friend since he annoys me all the time and is kinda a jerk. well ne way, how can i become friends with more guyz?? like i'm rly shy. never outgoing expect when i'm at my house or my grandma's house when no boyz r around. i'd introdice myself, but i'm way to shy. so here are my questions- 1. how can i become less shy around evryone? 2. how can i get more guy friends? PPLLLZZZ ANNSWER AAASSSSAAAPPPP!! THANX!

You should get your girlfriends to hang out with a group of guys. Then they can help you become friends with them because you could all become friends with the guys together. Laura

kittycat102 on 9/15/2008 7:16:34 PM

Cassie?
(or whoever's modding?)
haha my name's cassie too, just spelled different
anyways, i have a boy dilemna...
you see, there's this guy that I've liked ever since fifth grade who's a year older. I'm in seventh grade now. He's liked me ever since then too. We went out but broke up because we got seperated, he went to high school. So, yeah, I still like him, and everybody tells me he still likes me. They say he talks about me on the bus during football games and stuff...anyways, everybody's telling me ask him out, ask him out, he's shy...but i'm shy too. We never talk much in school cuz we don't have time and at recess he plays basketball with his friends.(we only have 15 minutes for recess, each class period is 47 minutes long with 3 minutes to get to each class) We talk after practice (i have volleyball he has football) and on MSN but that's it. Football games too. Once we start getting into it we don't stop laughing and talking and stuff...but we just have to get used to it and get a little loosened up. We never used to be like that but after a year apart only seeing each other every two weeks or so it's gotten a little harder. I want to ask him out but, I don't know if i should because I don't ever know when he's going to make a move. Should I? And if I should...how? E-mail? a note?
thanks a bunches!!!!!!!

.:*weDanced*:. on 9/15/2008 7:17:33 PM

.:.:.:.:.MOD.:.:.:.:.and girlies.:.:.:.:. ok i really need some help! theres this one guy, marcus, and hes really hot and he seems really nice (although ive never actually talked to him 1 on 1) but i dont really ever see him at school cuz hes only in my health/P.E. class but i dont sit anywhere near him in health and the guys and girls split up for gym after stretching. oh and he has a girlfriend. i really wanna get to know him better. what should i do?!

You can try talking to him but if he has a gf there isn't really anything you can do. Laura

novemberbaby164 on 9/15/2008 7:27:20 PM

mod what does it mean when a guy calls u a player?!?!? thanx!!!!!!

he probably means you flirt (aka "play") with a lot of guys. Laura

blondie323 on 9/15/2008 7:32:57 PM

***MOD!!*** so this guy sits behind me in social studies, he's a total flirt, and even admits to it. He twirls my hair, lays next to me(when we're doing maps on the floor), and is very touchy (not like bad just like flirty). My bff really likes him, but they only talk on facebook, and he says she's not on the top of his list. I don't know if he likes me, but I think I might like him. and today one of his friends was like he's flirting! he never flirts like really flirts! I wanna go out w him but i know I can't cuz it would kill my friend!! what should I do??? do you think he likes me???? thanks

It sounds like he likes you but you wouldn't want him to come between you and your friend. Laura

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harry_potter_girl_27 on 9/15/2008 7:45:40 PM

MOD Hey guys, gotta question... it feels like all i ever have is girl friends, and they are always so dramatic. how do i become friends with more guys, without ditching my girls?? help!

maeday45 on 9/15/2008 7:53:11 PM

i had that same problem but then i finally got up the courage to ask the guy i like out and i got myself a great bf! just think positive. if it works out, then great! if it doesn't, it's not the end of the world. there'll always be a perfect guy out there ur just waiting to meet one day, and when u do meet, badabing-badaboom: you've scored a great guy. good luck!

by the way, check out my profile, girlies! it's finally approved!

Jenny N on 9/15/2008 8:27:34 PM

MOD!!!!
plaese can i ask you a question

fishingirl on 9/15/2008 8:46:12 PM

MOD PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!! THANKS!!!!@ this weekend, I am going to a lake and camping with some family. I have had my period for a while, but I have never had the need to use tampons because every time I have been in water, I wasn't on my period. My period is supposed to start this friday-right when we start camping! We are gonna swim in the lake. Anyways, I need to get a tampon but I am way too scared to ask my mom. It's SOOOOO awkward!!! What do I do???

sometime the school nurse has them. Laura

LYC13 on 9/15/2008 8:54:42 PM

MOD
there is a guy i like, but he is friends with my cousin(my cousin is in the same grade as me and is in my school) It would be really awkward going out with him. wat should i do please help!!!!

littlemonkey2494 on 9/15/2008 9:10:04 PM

omgosh! I went out with this one guy and he is one of my friends now but he just got a new phone and I was texting him from 5:38 to 9:06! It was rele funny!

M1sspink135 on 9/15/2008 9:14:48 PM

**MOD** I just got my first boyfriend. I know that we're going to kiss soon, but I don't know how. My first kiss was so awkward, he has had experience and I don't want to look like a total loser. Please give me some tips on how to stay calm. Thanks!!

Melissa33 on 9/15/2008 9:15:21 PM

~~~~~~~~~MOD~~~~~~~~~ I really like this guy I have known for a few years. When I finally got the courage to tell him I liked him last year, it came out all wrong and sounded stupid. He even thought I was kidding! What do I do now? I still like him!

tell him again. Laura

lindseyloobird on 9/15/2008 9:45:44 PM

Heyy Cassie, or Laura, whoever is modding...

Well for starters I hope u guys both had a good day

Anyway, I kinda have a problem. I'm absolutely in love with this guy and no one wants us to be together. We have known each other for over 3 years and we hang out all the time (we both play sports, so we spend A LOT of time together practicing). We just had our first kiss the other day and I couldn't stop smiling!! I love him to death. I know its not lust because we have so much in common and don't care about all the physical stuff and just want to make each other happy and I want to be with him for the rest of my life and he's the best thing that ever happened to me. What's even worse is that I've been talking to him without my parents knowing. They've banned me from ever seeing him again, so we only get to see each other when our parents aren't around. And its just because he's a few years older than me I feel so guilty going behind my parents' backs but I would die if I didn't see him!! He's sooo amazing and I don't know what to do. Please help me out!!! If any other girlies are online giving out advice I could really use your help too. Thanks bunches!!!!!!

Hey Girl,

That is awesome you have found a guy that you have so much in common with. I would play it slow and do not look too far into the future, as much as you may not want them to things change. I think you should explain to your parents that you both enjoy each others company and ask them if they could get to know him, or ask if you can hang out together at your house? Then they might change their minds. As far as your friends you need to do what makes you happy, but don't ditch them. Good Luck!

-Kyle

mattsgirl<3 on 9/15/2008 11:06:41 PM

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hey mod, ok so I kinda like this boy and he's in 2 of my classes and I sit by him in homeroom. we sometimes talk and he sometimes says hi, but I don't know if he likes me back!! what do you think??? Please HELP!!!

Hey Girl,

I think you should talk to him a bit more and get to know him better it will be easier to get a read on him then.

-Kyle

JonasGirl120 on 9/16/2008 8:09:22 AM

OMG - same thing happens to me! It's like, I have no problem being friends with guys... but after I get to know them halfway well, I always get mixed up and start crushing on them. Then, I take every little thing that they do or say, and I analize it at bed every night trying to figure out if they like me back or not.
It's crazy. But most of them start to like me back, and then it gets all weird between us and that's pretty much the end... or like in this case where I take way too long and they start crushing on another girl and they are like "do you think this girl likes me?". So, yeah.... bummer for me too.

Lexy5 on 9/16/2008 9:39:20 AM

MOD!!!!!!
omg!! so i reaaaallllllyyyyy like this guy. and i sit next to him in spanish

) the thing is though, we switch seats every week, and were switching seats thursday (he's not even gonna be there that day! ) and thats like the only time we talk! so idk. another thing is that before i talked to him at all his friend came over cause we were working, and they were talking and his friend was like how far have to gone with a girl? and he was like 'third base, wait, what would third base be considered?' but they were like talking quietly so i wasn't really sposed to hear. but since i've been talking to him he's like really nice and not like that all. the only thing is i feel like i'm like wayy out of his league, like he's pretty popular, and i mean, i know he's hung out with girls out of school before, and had girlfriends (i've never had a boyfriend nor hung out with guys out of school) so i just don't know what to do. i likkkeeee him soooo much! (btw i'm a freshie)
advice?! gracias ;)

Hey Girl,

Well my advice is just because you won't sit near each other anymore does not mean you can't talk to him during class. I am sure if you really think hard you probably cross paths with him other times during the day, so strike up a short convo then. Get his screenname and chat it up after school. Don't put yourself up against other girls he has hung out with either, every person is different. Don't worry about having a boyfriend, you will have plenty of time for that! Good Luck.

-Kyle

oohelloxxkittyoo on 9/16/2008 3:49:00 PM

MOD************** Ok i have like a major problem. Ok so i liked this guy and we flirted and he returned interest and hes like really nice and the perfect bf (ive nown him since 2nd grade) but now that i can tell hes gonna ask me out...I DONT LIKE HIM ANYMORE! This happened last year with my bgf too! I flirt like crazy then wen they ask me out Idk i just dont like them anymore! It only happens sometimes though...could it be cuz of my past rough relationships??? wats wrong with me???? and wat do i say to him if he asks me out?????? thanks lylal

hey babes, if you dont like him you dont like him. You probably like the attention the the thrill of getting a boy to like you. If he asks you out be honest and say you dont want a boyfriend right now. xo JANA

bebe americano on 9/16/2008 4:53:24 PM

babe,
don't ask him out!! have ur friends make sure, then have them say that u want him to ask u out!! and there u go!!

mrsjoejonas129 on 9/16/2008 5:00:31 PM

I just got my first boyfriend. I know that we're going to kiss soon, but I don't know how. My first kiss was so awkward, he has had experience and I don't want to look like a total loser. Please give me some tips on how to stay calm. Thanks!!

Omg, MOD, same question. My last bf, I got totally panicked about kissing him. It made me seem uninterested.

angelrachel95 on 9/16/2008 5:14:46 PM

MOD, I've liked this boy for a while. Last year I did, and he asked me to dance with him in Spanish Class. Twice! Over the summer, I got over him with another boyfriend, but this year I totally fell for him again! He's not really popular, but he's soooo funny. We get to choose our seats in math, so I sit next to him and we laugh and joke all class. And he asked me for my number, and said, "omg I'm going to text you random things ALL THE TIME." He's really sweet. I know I can't just ask him out, so what do I say? Do you think he likes me?

Hey babes, just go with it, hes clearly interested because he asked for your number, I would work on your friendship and see where things go from there. xo JANA

angelrachel95 on 9/16/2008 5:26:00 PM

THanks Jana! that really helped! phew now i don't feel so bad

bebe americano on 9/16/2008 5:31:54 PM

Hey babes, just go with it, hes clearly interested because he asked for your number, I would work on your friendship and see where things go from there. xo JANA

That's a good idea, thanks! I've got all year, anyways, lol.

angelrachel95 on 9/16/2008 5:35:14 PM

MOD, also, how old do you think someone should be to date? And when was your first kiss?

Hey babes, I think you should be 16 so that you can actually drive places to go on dates and my first kiss was in 8th grade. xo JANA

angelrachel95 on 9/16/2008 5:40:45 PM

MOD****************** (I'm ASKING THIS FOR A FRIEND)!!!! Ok so this is from my friend: i was going out with this guy and it was going really well and then he broke up with me. i found out a week later that he has been going out with this other girl that he has been out with before for a long time. and then he stopped talking to me and was acting like he did nothing wrong. the problem on the scale from 1 to 10 i i think that he is an 11 and all of my friends think that i should get over him but i can. I LIKE HIM SO MUCH!!!! What should I do??? thanks Jana! hope u can answer ♥

Hey babes, have you no pride? He committed the WORST thing ever, he was cheating on you, he is clearly dishonest and disloyal, the two worst things a person can be. This in itself should be pushing you to move on.You deserve A LOT better. xo JANA

bebe americano on 9/16/2008 5:42:05 PM

okay, in science it's assigned seating and i sit at the back with this funny guy. i don't see myself dating him -now that i know him more--ew. but the only time we talk is during class, we don't even say hi to eachother in the hallways. I want to hangout more with him---how?

Hey babes,say hi! You talk in class theres no reason to not talk outside class. xoxo JANA

sweetheart <3 on 9/16/2008 6:01:48 PM

Hey thanks so much Kyle R.!!! Thanks for the advice!!

JonasGirl120 on 9/16/2008 7:41:20 PM

MOD!!!! hey ok so I'm in 7th grade and never had a "real" boyfriend....my friends have had at least 2 and one of my friends keeps saying "you should get a boyfriend" and I sort of like someone but for right now I'm focused on school...even though I'm a straight A student. I don't like it when she tells me that and she talks about her boyfriends ALL the time and its getting annoying, should I tell her that??? Please help!!

Hey girl, there is nothing wrong with being focused on school, at your age, boyfriends are fun but they arent anything serious. Dot let your buds annoy you, just tell them you arent interested and change the subject. xo JANA

JonasGirl120 on 9/16/2008 7:46:19 PM

Mod~ i really like this guy but his best friend likes me instead but he (the friend) and i have nothing in common while me and the crush do have everything in common. i really have no clue as to react to this and well i really like the non best friend help! !!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!! !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl, if you dont like the friend then who cares? There is no rule that says you have to date someone who likes you if you dont like them back. xo JANA

luckeeenumber3 on 9/16/2008 8:27:09 PM

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