Who should call or text first: You or your crush?
This guy and I exchanged numbers. So what’s next? Do we set up a date? Who sets it up?
Dave: Traditionalists say the guy should take the initiative. With me, there’s no place for tradition when it comes to dating. It leads to a bunch of poor, confused souls sitting around trying to figure out what they’re supposed to do, rather than what they want to do. Since every situation is different, there’s no proper next step. If you want to go out with him and feel comfortable making the first call (or text), go ahead. He must want to go out with you since he gave you his number. Note: If you call and the greeting is, “Domino’s. May I take your order?” you have a problem.
Bill: Hey, this isn’t The Rules for Dating, you know. Dave and I could set up the date, but then you’d have to buy us dinner—and you don’t wanna do that. Unless you’re both in the business of updating the phone book, then I’d say you probably exchanged numbers because you want to see each other socially. If the guy is formal and into dating etiquette, then he should probably call. If he’s a low-key guy who likes and respects you, he’d probably love you to call him. Ask yourself, “If there were no societal expectations, what would I feel natural doing?” Then do it!