"I don't want to be a bad girl anymore. But how do I stop?"
I’ve created an image for myself that I don’t like. I wear gobs of makeup. I smoked so a guy would like me. I stole my best friend’s boyfriend, and now I like her new boyfriend. I’ve tried to change, but it’s hard.
Dear Bad Girl,
You feel lousy, right? But behind that makeup and smoke is a good person. Come on out! Change is hard—for you to do and others to recognize. But since you no longer want to play rough-and-tough boyfriend stealer, find healthy ways to feel confident. What are you good at? Soccer? Singing? Science? Spanish? Build on those strengths.
As for changing your rep, lose the makeup and put a positive attitude on your face—even if it feels kind of forced at first. Ask guys and girls friendly questions such as, “What are you doing during vacation?” It may take a while to replace the old image, but congratulate yourself on having the guts to change.
Oh, and hands off the cigarettes and friends’ boyfriends! Your health and friendships are far more important than getting a guy.
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