GIRL TALK: Consumed By Jealousy

-Jealous


Here’s a quick and friendly fashion tip for ya: Jealousy looks good on no one.  It’s only natural to feel jealous every once and a while.  After all, you’re human.  But being jealous all the time?  So not worth it and so not healthy.

It’s very good that you seem to understand the source of your jealousy.  Congratulations, this is the first step to becoming a better (non-jealous) person.  Now, let’s focus on the positives and do away with the negatives.  You say you don’t think you’re very pretty, but your friends think you are.  Unfortunately, sometimes you can be your own worst critic.

Make a list of at least five things you absolutely love about yourself.  But before you start jotting down some physical characteristics (eyes, nose, mouth, etc.), list those non-physical traits, such as your personality, sense of humor or intelligence.  What’s on the inside counts way more that what you see on the outside.

Once you start focusing your attention on all the great things about you (and pay less attention to those other girls), your confidence will naturally rise.  Remember, everyone—even those so-called popular and pretty girls—feels jealous now and then.  Trust me, I know I have!  But you shouldn’t let it consume you.  Most importantly, try hard not to compare yourself to other people.  There’s only one you and you’re beautiful, babe!

Lots of love,

BY ANDREA T. ON 10/6/2008 2:17:00 PM 42 COMMENTS

 

GIRL TALK: Flirt-A-Holic

XOXO,
Boycrazy


There’s nothing wrong with flirting.  It’s kind of like chocolate—great in moderation, but too much is never a good thing.  But Girl Rule #1 dictates you should never, EVER flirt with a friend’s crush, boyfriend, or ex-boyfriend. 

Let’s start at the beginning.  Why do you like your friend’s boyfriend?  Make a list of these qualities and look for them in other guys.  Think you’re just into your friend’s BF because you can’t have him?  That’s not a good reason and you know it.

Do you really want to ruin a great friendship and lose a great friend over some boy?  Trust me on this one: no guy is ever worth losing your girls.  How would you feel if your friend was flirting with your boyfriend?  Not so great, huh?  Show your girl some respect and remember her BF is off-limits.

The fact that you even considered your friend’s feelings shows you’re a great friend as well.  Remember, it’s okay to flirt, but that doesn’t mean you should flirt with everyone. Boyfriends come and go, but great girl friends last a lifetime.

Lots of love,

BY ANDREA T. ON 9/29/2008 5:36:00 PM 50 COMMENTS

 

GIRL TALK: Crime Stopper

 
-Anonymous
 
I guess it’s a testament to how far television has come…that things are so real on TV that you often have a difficult time differentiating between what is reality and what is fiction. I guess in your case, what you watch unfortunately does translate into real life occurrences. I am a fan of CSI and Law and Order and all of that, mostly because what goes on when it comes to crime investigation is so complicated and always interesting. I don’t think you have to cut back on your TV watching or find something else to like. You are obviously drawn to these programs for a reason. However, it is important to know that while shows like that are either based on actual cases or are representative of things that could happen, YOU are safe. You are in your own home with your parents, who I am sure lock up every single night. Nothing is going to happen to you. It might help to alternate shows, watch the crime ones and then add in a funny/happy one like Friends at the end so that your last waking moments are spent watching something that makes you feel good. Whenever I watch something scary I put on the Food Network or Disney (don’t judge). It calms me down and gets my mind off of other scary things that I have just watched and believe me, I have a nightlights all over my apartment because I scare very easily.
 
A positive that can come from you watching these shows is 1. They are often portrayals of realistic situations, learn from them. Some valuable lessons can be learned from shows that recreate dangerous situations.  2. They give a little insight to what goes on in police investigations, which is cool to know and 3. You are probably drawn to them because you have an interest in law and social responsibility. I can’t say that life as a lawyer, a judge, a policeman or a crime scene investigator is always that exciting, but those professions definitely do good for humanity. Maintain a balance and you will be fine. If it becomes too much to handle, maybe you need to take a break from all of those shows for a while.
 
XO,

BY ANDREA T. ON 9/22/2008 5:36:00 PM 46 COMMENTS

 

GIRL TALK: Take The Next Step

-Anonymous

Hey, girlie! So you're a little late on grabbin' the boy when ya can, huh? No worries! This can be fixed, chica.

First of all, when you realize that you like a boy, think hard about whether you can see yourself dating him. If you honestly can, then that's when you need to find out if he feels the same way for you. When you know for sure that he is into you just the same, then you'll know it's time to win his heart for sure and ask him out!

You shouldn't feel scared about the guy saying no. You def have to be confident about this! Be prepared for a yes or a no, babe. If he says yes, then awwwwww yeah, girl! But if he says no, then it's totally cool! You should accept that it wasn't meant to be and you can always stay friends.

So next time, make sure your crush knows how you feel and do what ya gotta do before another chick comes and it becomes too late! Good luck, chica!

BY ANDREA T. ON 9/15/2008 11:51:00 AM 76 COMMENTS