Dear Carol
My friend’s mom is a drug addict. They have no electricity or running water. My friend fabricates stories to make her life seem more normal. She is also boy-crazy. My friends and I are afraid she’ll grow up to be like her mom. Can you help us confront her about her lying?
Dear Sick of Lies,
How awful that your friend’s mom is on drugs and that they’re so poor. I don’t blame her for wishing her life were different, do you? Instead of rushing to confront her about lying, be compassionate and boost her with compliments. What do you like about her? Focus on that. She’s probably boy-crazy because she’s looking for accept-ance. She could use kindness in her life, so reach out to her rather than criticizing her, OK?
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BY ANDREA T. ON 10/10/2008 1:39:00 PM 27 COMMENTS
My friends and I were hanging with some boys and pretending to flash them. We didn’t do it—we were just playing. Later, one boy asked why we didn’t really flash and said we are the girls with the biggest boobs. I was shocked and felt kind of dirty. Not in a smelly way—as in, being looked at and stuff. Every time I see him now, I am afraid he will stare at me.
Dear Fake Flasher,
It’s natural to feel awkward, but I hope you can put this behind you. I’m sorry that boy turned something silly into something that felt degrading. It’s awful to feel like you’re being stared at. But here’s the thing: If you play as if you might flash boys, don’t be surprised if they act interested in your body. In the future, beware of inviting unwanted attention.
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BY ANDREA T. ON 10/3/2008 5:09:00 PM 126 COMMENTS
Dear Confused,
That is so lame! And right before your eyes, no less. It’s not uncommon for a girl’s friend and boyfriend to feel a little something for each other. But it’s also common courtesy for them not to act on it! Sounds like you need to find yourself some caring, trustworthy friends. When school starts, sign up for at least two activities (sports, band, newspaper, drama club, whatever), and use the opportunity to connect with new girls and guys. As for Romeo and Juliet, they deserve each other—and you definitely deserve better.
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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/26/2008 5:53:00 AM 121 COMMENTS
Dear Sleepy,
Give each other makeovers, take magazine quizzes, bake cupcakes, make a collage, write a song, draw portraits of each other, interview each other on video, put together a scrapbook, tell ghost stories, look for constellations from the backyard, have a fashion show, do a 500-piece puzzle, play Scrabble, make pizza from scratch, plan a party, dance to new music, or invite some other pals over. Just not all on the same night!
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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/19/2008 5:41:00 PM 80 COMMENTS