Boys
I REALLY want my crush to notice me but I don't want to make me seem as a flirt. I wanna talk to him but I’m afraid it will look like it’s obvious I like him to everyone around me. I’m sick of helping my friends with their crushes instead of my own. How can I be more confident with a friendly convo without implying that I like him? I just want him to notice me.
-Anonymous
Hey, girlie. You def heard this a bunch of times before, but the answer to your problem is simple: BE YOURSELF! So you want your crush to look your way and notice you. You've gotta say something for him to notice. But to make sure nobody catches your lovey dovey tone of voice and sparkle in your eyes when you talk to him might be a tad bit hard to hide.
I totally say go for it and be shameless! Don't be afraid to ask whatever you want to know about him and say whatever you want to say to him. Honestly, being yourself will bring out your true colors, babe. He will DEF notice that and I totally bet he'd be down for a laid back girl versus a girl who tries to hide who she is and be someone else. Be you and things will go perfect!
<3, Sharon
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BY ANDREA T. ON 10/10/2008 11:37:00 AM 59 COMMENTS
I really like this guy at my school. He is popular and lots of girls like him because he is on the football team. I don’t know how to handle the competition, or even how to talk to him! All my friends are great around guys, which really intimidates me. I need help!
-Vampirelover1901
Hmm…classic cute boy on the football team scenario? You may think the only way to get him to pay attention to you is to join the cheerleading squad. But before you pick up those pom-poms, there are some other ways to get him to notice you that don’t require you to back flips or splits.
First and foremost, confidence is key! If you don’t believe in yourself, no one will. So don’t even compare yourself to those other girls, there’s only one you and it’s your time to shine! A great personality will get you further with guys (and in life!) than good looks and fancy clothes.
If you don’t feel comfortable talking to him right away, send your crush a cute smile. It will show him you’re sweet…and a little shy, which may be a refreshing change from the girls who constantly throw themselves at him all day. Next step? Just say “Hi!” when you see him in class or in the hallway. That’s it, just two little letters to show him you’re friendly, too.
Since you have friends who are great around guys, you should definitely use them as resources! Don’t be afraid to ask them for help. They can probably give you excellent tips…and maybe even introduce you to some cuties! Whatever you do, babe, don’t forget to be yourself!
Ciao bella,
L’Oreal
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BY ANDREA T. ON 10/3/2008 1:05:00 PM 85 COMMENTS
There is this guy who I really like, and he would talk to me, and tell me jokes. When I told him that I liked him, he suddenly began to stop talking to me. I am very sad, because he is super nice to my best friend. She has a boyfriend so I hope he doesn't like her. What should I do, should I stop liking him?
-Brianna
Guys ALWAYS freak out when you bring up that subject. What is probably happening right now is this guy just doesn’t know how to act around you. He is afraid that if he acts like how he normally acts, you will think he likes you so instead of just acting normal, he is distancing himself which in fact makes things even more awkward. The best thing you can do is just try to be his friend. Tell him that nothing is worth losing his friendship over and that you miss having him around. If you act normal, he will have no choice but to act normal. In the mean time, focus on guys that are available. Choose someone that you know but aren’t super close with, that way you don’t have to be completely sad over losing a friendship if for some reason it doesn’t work out. As for your bff, I wouldn’t worry about her. If she has a good head on her shoulders and really cares about her boyfriend, she won’t give into any kindness that this guy is showing her.
XO,
JANA
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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/26/2008 8:56:00 AM 91 COMMENTS
O.k. There's this guy Jake I really really really like. Only, I
don't know him so well and I know for a fact that this girl that's
kinda sorta my friend likes him, a lot. She's always flirting with him
and I can't tell if he likes her or not. I would like to be closer to
him. He's really cute and funny and smart and all that "perfect" jazz.
Well, I've only talked to him a time or two. I've known him for a while
but I moved from where I live now and then moved back. Before I hadn't
really noticed him, but now I think of him all the time. How can I make
this more than just a casual acquaintance before he falls for that
other girl I talked about? Can someone pleeze tell me how to land this
dude?
- ya, i'm that desperate'
Oh to be young and in love..,those were the days. First of all you
are not desperate, it sounds as though you have given a lot of thought
to this predicament you are in. There is nothing desperate about
wanting to get to know someone a little better. It sounds like your
heart is in the right place, props to you for finding a guy that is
cute, funny AND intelligent. Wanting to get to know someone but being
unsure as to their romantic situation and what they are looking for is
the story of my life. Keep things simple. Get to know him before you
profess your love. Starting up a convo seems super stressful but a
simple “ Hey how was your weekend?” will give you a jump start into
dissecting this dude and seeing what he is really about. Relationships
are born out of friendships, concentrate on your common interests and
build a foundation for a possible relationship. You may find that you
enjoy Jake as just a good guy friend.
As for the other girl in the picture…don’t stress out about it. I am
the queen of overanalyzing and I can tell you that obsessing over the
unknown details makes for a messy situation. If you are close enough
friends with her that a possible relationship with Jake would totally
put a damper on your bud bond then you need to ask her what’s up. It’s
always a difficult situation when two BFFs dig the same guy, but your
best bet is to lay all your cards on the table and let your bud know
your intentions.
If you don’t think that a love connection between you
and Jake will have a drastic affect on this chic, then don’t sweat it.
Keep an open mind and be that confident babe you are. In order to
make things happen you have to make an active effort, don’t wait on the
sidelines.
Kisses,
Jana
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BY ANDREA T. ON 9/19/2008 8:39:00 PM 175 COMMENTS